Making up Excuses

I asked a friend of mine recently why he seems unafraid of failure, and how he remains upbeat in the face of difficulties. And he shared his life philosophy with me - he said that every time he fails, he examines the situation critically, comes up with three reasons why he failed and from there, he thinks of three ways he can improve it. That way, he will be always learning and constantly looking forward to a better future.

That had made me think about how we all could benefit from that manner of thinking positively. When we failed at doing something, most of us tend to make up excuses for ourselves - e.g. because I'm not born cleaver, because the judges were bais and etc..

Making up excuses has been part of our life (and we nevere seem to do it better if we are given the same senario again for the 2nd time) well at least for most of us... but there's a great way to make your excuses work for you.

The next time you feel like making an excuse, instead of thinking of an excuse why we can't do it, try instead making an excuse why you think you can do it. Since we all are experts in making up excuses, we won't need much training in this area, so just shift our focus to instead of we can't do it, lets focus on what we can do. Instead of coming up with all kinds of excuses why it won't work, let's focus on why it can work. This is just like how my friend comes up with three ways he can improve the next time. But you don't have to stop at three? Give yourself no room to make up excuses why you can't. Instead of focusing energy on excuses that don't serve you in moving forward, make up excuses that inspires and motivates you to do what you want to do. Excuses like "there is no time like the present", "I am just the person to do the job", "I know all the ways it can work."

Be creative and think as many as you like.